Fortunately for me, or at least he has not told me, the psychic did not tell him to run away from the wedding as fast as he could. Thank you, unknown psychic. I owe you a solid.
In the many years that have followed the one time meeting we have enjoyed times of blissful romance along stomach turning twists in the rollercoaster that is living out loud. I wonder if the unknown psychic knew. I couldn’t have imagined it myself.
There are a couple pieces of advice that he imparted, one such item was that in each relationship there is a flower and there is a gardener.
The flower stands in colorful glory, dispensing beauty and attracting attention while the gardener quietly tends the tender blossom, nurturing and providing nutrients wherein it can grow.
For a long time I believed with all my heart I was a gardener. Mr Dreamboat is a big personality and he indeed attracts attention for better reasons than simple beauty. He is deep and kind and permanently sociable. People gobble him up like the rare beauty that he is.
By contrast, my gardener’s personality is sometimes curmudgeonly and unsociable. I am not made to be in the constant spotlight. Throw me the occasional accolade and I’m good for a long season without anything else.
I used to believe the unknown psychic without question. I made sense of the observation by imagining what a balanced relationship would look like. And I was wrong.
In every relationship there is a flower and there is a gardener, but these are not fixed stations. There are times I nurture and there is a healthy dose of nurturing I receive from the kindly hands of the man I refer to as Mr D.
Balance doesn’t look like a steady scale with pluses and minuses always coming in at a 50/50 split. It goes back and forth. It waxes and wanes. Balance is a long journey and can never be judged by just one day or even one year.
We are each flowers, we are each gardeners and it is balanced to know this and to embrace the delicate dance that is a relationship that is worth the dirty hands, the rainy days and the glorious garden it will someday become.
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